this really should be everyone's motto.
living in a world full of hate it pulls at my heart to know how much adversity Rae and Aubrey will have to go through as they get older. As two little girls, I know the drama that will unfold as they go throughout school and I want to teach them at an early age that being kind and showing compassion will always be the right answer. There will always, always be people who want to tear you down. Shed negative light and bad days will certainly happen.
being a mom and meeting other AMAZING momma's along the way has taught me that we all have mommy guilt, that we all want the best for our babes. The on-going debates over breast milk vs. formula, co-sleeping vs crib, television time, organic vs. regular, public school vs. homeschooling and to vaccinate or to no. No parent makes a decision based on, " I vaccinate to possible give myself a learning disorder" or "I don't vaccinate to put my kids through sicknesses." We're all in this together, trying to do what's best for our babes. So pat yourself on the back and go eat a cupcake! You're doing great and YOU are the best parent for YOUR child. He/she is so lucky to have you to care for their mental and physical well-being. Give your babes a hug and a kiss and tell them you love them everyday, laugh with them and play hard. These are the moments that truly matter.
and as a mom, a wife, a friend make sure you express how much the people in your lives matter. Our life is pretty hectic, we don't have family on this side of the states so date nights basically never happen. That doesn't mean we still don't date. We leave silly love notes around the house, coffee dates after Rae goes to sleep are our new thing and even though we don't get dressed up and go out to a fancy dinner, Stefan always finds ways to tell me I'm beautiful (everyday, too) and how much he appreciates me. I could learn a thing or two from that man. So wives, date your husbands! Wake up with him before work, enjoy the morning together before the day starts.
tell your friends how much they mean to you! Growing up I had a large circle of friends, we all grew up in a small town and their friendships are always on my heart. I miss having friends close by, but what I have learned is that through the distance the military life has brought us is that those friends are still close by. My very best calls me every lunch break she has and on her way home.. half of those times I don't pick up because my phones on silent or Rae has my attention. Instead of giving up on me, she still calls. Day in and day out and I am SO thankful for that. FaceTime and Skype are lifesavers.
I can say with certainty that becoming a mom has been one of the best things God has ever entrusted me with. There's so much I've learned, even on the hardest days where a toddler will just push you to your limits, I always go to bed with such a full heart. Being a good role model is so important to me, especially because I have a little girl who mimics my every move. Rae notices the little things I do everyday and is soaking in so much, so I want her to see the best side of me... to compliment others, to be kind and to build each other up! Give hugs and encourage those around you, because we all need it and we all appreciate it. Happiness is so much better than to dwell in negativity. I know I need those happy moments and I can guarantee you'd never regret putting a smile on someone's face.
"the more light you you allow within you, the brighter the world you live in will be." //Shakti Gawain